Hey Beautiful, Let’s Talk Real Life
Welcome if you’re reading this, you’re probably busy AF. Balancing work deadlines, family obligations, school aspirations, relationship maintenance, side hustle grinding and trying to somehow be “that girl” who drinks her water, does her stretches and comes out raging.
Ok let’s start this off with one thing – You don’t need more hours in the day; you need permission to put YOURSELF first. Self-care is not selfish. Self-care is how you survive. It’s how you heal. It’s how we fill up our cups so we can pour into others without crumbling.
So, here are answers to some common questions about self-care the busy women ask.
#1 “I’m always busy. How do I practice self-care without feeling guilty?”
Queen…this is huge. We were programmed to believe that resting equates to being lazy and taking breaks means you’re falling behind. Newsflash Queen that programming needs to be DELETED.
Self-care is NOT a bonus. It’s necessary. You don’t have to “deserve” rest by running on empty. Begin by changing the narrative: I take care of myself so I can show up as my best self, NOT because I failed.
Start saying this to yourself: Rest is productive when it preserves my peace.
#2 “What does self-care actually look like for busy women?”
Let’s face it Queen, some of us don’t have time for spa days and weekend getaways (we deserve those too 😌).
Self-care can actually be:
- Drinking water before your coffee
- Taking 5 deep breaths before reacting to stress
- Logging off of work at work hours
- Stretching for 10 minutes
- Saying “no” and not over-explaining yourself
- Going to bed early instead of scrolling
A little thing done daily = BIG difference.
#3 “How do I fit self-care into my packed schedule?”
Instead of trying to add more, start stacking it into what you already do.
Examples:
- Skincare while listening to affirmations
- Stretching while watching your favorite show
- Journaling for 5 minutes before bed
- Deep breathing in the car before walking into work
Self-care doesn’t need an hour. Sometimes it just needs intention.
#4 “What if I’m too tired to even start?”
When you’re burned out, stressed out, and completely fried that’s your cue to ease up, not steamroll forward.
Start small. Like really small:
- Take a bath
- Make your bed
- Sit with your thoughts for 5 minutes
- Take a walk outside
You can’t do it all. You just have to do something nice for yourself today.
#5 “How do I stop pouring into everyone else and neglecting myself?”
High-energy women are nurturers. We pour into others and pour and pour… until we’re empty.
This is your reminder: You get to have that energy too.
Make some non-negotiables:
- One night a week where you do you
- One morning routine
- One boundary that guards your time
You’ll have more energy for others when you guard yours.
#6 “What’s one daily self-care habit I should prioritize?”
If I could only recommend ONE thing it would be checking in with yourself emotionally.
Every day ask yourself:
- How am I really feeling today?
- What do I need?
- What can I let go of?
Being in tune with your emotions is self-care. You don’t have to hold everything together to be strong.
#7 “How do I stay consistent when life gets chaotic?”
Perfect consistency is impossible, Real consistency is showing up, despite being imperfect.
There will be weeks where you shine. There will be weeks where you just grind through. They both matter.
Build micro-habits:
- Daily affirmation
- Nighttime skin care routine
- One day a week to refresh
- Sunday pampering
Self-care becomes habitual when you make it your lifestyle.
SHEspiration Reflection: A Love Note to You
Beautiful soul, I want you to hear this…
You don’t have to be exhausted to be worthy.
You don’t have to break down to deserve rest.
You don’t have to prove your strength by suffering in silence.
Self-care is choosing YOU, even on busy days, even on hard days, even when nobody is watching.
This week, I challenge you to ask yourself:
“What does my mind, body, and spirit need today?”
And then… honor it.
Because SHE doesn’t just survive.
SHE heals. SHE grows. SHE rests. SHE rises. ✨